Supporting a child with Cancer
Tea & Chat 24/01/24
Helping children understand Cancer
Led by Mariam Aslam
The experience of cancer through the eyes of a child is deeply poignant and unique. Children often perceive the world with a mix of innocence, curiosity, and creativity, which shapes their understanding of something as complex as cancer.
Confusion and Curiosity
For many children, the initial understanding of cancer is wrapped in confusion. They may not fully grasp the medical jargon but notice the changes around them—frequent hospital visits, whispered conversations, and worried faces. Questions like, “Why do I feel tired all the time?” or “Why does Mommy cry when she thinks I’m not looking?” reflect their search for understanding.
Fear and Uncertainty
Cancer introduces children to the fragility of life earlier than most. Whether they are the patient or observing a loved one, there is often fear—of pain, loss, or the unknown. A child might say, “Does this mean I’ll lose my hair? Will my friends still like me?” or “Will Daddy ever come back from the hospital?”
Imaginative Coping
Children often use their imagination to make sense of the illness. A child might imagine the cancer as a villain they need to fight or think of the medicine as a team of tiny superheroes. This metaphorical thinking can provide comfort and a sense of control over the situation.
Resilience and Small Joys
Despite the gravity of cancer, children have a remarkable ability to find joy. A simple balloon in a hospital room or a visit from a therapy animal can light up their world. Their resilience is seen in moments like colouring their IV pole with stickers or laughing during a silly game with siblings.
Desire for Normalcy
A child’s longing for normalcy is profound. They might ask, “Can I still play football?” or “When can I go back to school?” This desire reflects their wish to stay connected to the life they know, even as cancer imposes so many changes.
Love and Connection
Through it all, a child often holds tightly to their relationships. A hug from a parent, a bedtime story, or a visit from a friend can be a source of immense strength. Their expressions of love like drawing a picture for their nurse or hugging their doctor, remind us of their capacity for hope.
Conclusion:
Supporting a child with cancer involves creating a safe and supportive environment, being honest in an age-appropriate way, and encouraging open communication. Acknowledge their feelings, stay calm, and maintain normal routines as much as possible. Offer distractions, engage in fun activities, and provide physical comfort. Stay informed about their treatment and involve them in decisions when appropriate. Provide reassurance of love and support, stay positive without being unrealistic, and seek professional help if needed. Take care of yourself, involve siblings, and incorporate comforting rituals for emotional stability.
